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A Stanley Cup (loss) Theory

23 Jun

I listen to the Team 1040 on the radio, a lot. Yes, I’m a chick and I listen to sports radio. In fact, it consumed my airwaves over the past few months during the Vancouver Canucks storied, and ultimately, heartbreaking Stanley Cup run. I couldn’t turn it off for fear that I would miss an important injury update, intriguing statistic or controversial comment. And as a huge music fan, I started to feel guilty… almost like I was cheating on music. But I continue to be drawn to listening as the various on-air personalities break down what went wrong with the Canucks, analyze areas of improvement for next year and offer their insight for the upcoming draft and looming free agency deadline.

Last night the annual NHL Awards were held, so again, I was glued to the radio as I listened to see which Canucks would take home hardware this year. Amongst many, the Canucks’ GM Mike Gillis was named GM of the Year. He was asked if winning this award took the edge off the disappointment of losing the Stanley Cup in game 7 to the Boston Bruins. His answer? A simple and concise, “No”. (My sentiments exactly.) Gillis then went on to discuss the extensive collection of work that has been published on the theme, ‘before success, comes failure’. In Gillis’ case, the theory suggests that before his team is able to experience the ecstasy of success, they need to endure the agony of defeat in order to brutally learn what it takes to overcome every single hurdle imaginable to reach the ultimate prize. This theory got me thinking about the correlation between heartache and love.

If one must go through the devastation of failure before revelling in a great achievement, is it so far fetched to think that before being able to love another and learn how to put one’s need before their own, one must first wallow in the waters of of heartache? Of course this is not an absolute as it’s definitely not the case for everyone, but when I say “one”, I really mean myself. Truthfully, before having my heart broken, I didn’t know how to love another and put their needs before my own. I wanted to, but I constantly tripped on my own shortcomings and inexperience and instead of getting up and seeking help, I got up, only to trip and fall flat on my face again. Sometimes, I think I’m someone who has to learn things the hard way. Well here I am, two years later, with the gift of another chance in a relationship to love someone and put their needs before my own. And wow, thankfully, I have learned a lot. Maybe it’s too early to tell (but then again, maybe it’s not), but it’s looking like Mr. Gillis’ reference to the theory of ‘enduring failure, before achieving success’ in regards to the Canucks can accurately be translated to the theory of ‘enduring heartache, before experiencing love’… for me at least. And hopefully, the former theory holds true for next year’s Vancouver Canucks.

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