Tag Archives: love

A Stanley Cup (loss) Theory

23 Jun

I listen to the Team 1040 on the radio, a lot. Yes, I’m a chick and I listen to sports radio. In fact, it consumed my airwaves over the past few months during the Vancouver Canucks storied, and ultimately, heartbreaking Stanley Cup run. I couldn’t turn it off for fear that I would miss an important injury update, intriguing statistic or controversial comment. And as a huge music fan, I started to feel guilty… almost like I was cheating on music. But I continue to be drawn to listening as the various on-air personalities break down what went wrong with the Canucks, analyze areas of improvement for next year and offer their insight for the upcoming draft and looming free agency deadline.

Last night the annual NHL Awards were held, so again, I was glued to the radio as I listened to see which Canucks would take home hardware this year. Amongst many, the Canucks’ GM Mike Gillis was named GM of the Year. He was asked if winning this award took the edge off the disappointment of losing the Stanley Cup in game 7 to the Boston Bruins. His answer? A simple and concise, “No”. (My sentiments exactly.) Gillis then went on to discuss the extensive collection of work that has been published on the theme, ‘before success, comes failure’. In Gillis’ case, the theory suggests that before his team is able to experience the ecstasy of success, they need to endure the agony of defeat in order to brutally learn what it takes to overcome every single hurdle imaginable to reach the ultimate prize. This theory got me thinking about the correlation between heartache and love.

If one must go through the devastation of failure before revelling in a great achievement, is it so far fetched to think that before being able to love another and learn how to put one’s need before their own, one must first wallow in the waters of of heartache? Of course this is not an absolute as it’s definitely not the case for everyone, but when I say “one”, I really mean myself. Truthfully, before having my heart broken, I didn’t know how to love another and put their needs before my own. I wanted to, but I constantly tripped on my own shortcomings and inexperience and instead of getting up and seeking help, I got up, only to trip and fall flat on my face again. Sometimes, I think I’m someone who has to learn things the hard way. Well here I am, two years later, with the gift of another chance in a relationship to love someone and put their needs before my own. And wow, thankfully, I have learned a lot. Maybe it’s too early to tell (but then again, maybe it’s not), but it’s looking like Mr. Gillis’ reference to the theory of ‘enduring failure, before achieving success’ in regards to the Canucks can accurately be translated to the theory of ‘enduring heartache, before experiencing love’… for me at least. And hopefully, the former theory holds true for next year’s Vancouver Canucks.

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Day 20 – keep on keepin’ on

11 Sep

I don’t know about you, but today felt like the first official day of Fall. There was this coolness in the air that rather than disappearing into the clouds come mid-morning, lingered on throughout the day notifying everyone that those long summer days may just be gone for the season. And then it rained. Once the rain came all I wanted to do was cuddle up in my bed, the couch or any other cozy place I could find to read, write and watch tv (not all at once of course). And that’s exactly what I did bringing me to where I am at this moment – very sleepy. (I really need to start writing these blogs earlier in the day).

So tonight I’m simply going to post two pictures taken on a bridge over a river somewhere between Lynchburg, Virginia and Natural Bridge, Virginia. I like what they have to say.

sometimes, that's all we can do

truth

And a quote, because as we’ve established, I like quotes.

“Dear Child of God, in our world it is often hard to remember that God loves you just as you are. God loves you not because you are good. No, God loves you period. God loves us not because we are lovable. No, we are lovable precisely because God loves us. It is marvelous when you come to understand that you are accepted for who you are, apart from any achievement. It is so liberating.” – Desmond Tutu, 2004 (God Has a Dream: A Vision of Hope for Our Time)

PS: If you haven’t done so already, I’d really appreciate if you read my post from yesterday. It’s about a really wonderful non-profit organization that is quite dear to me.

Day 2 – a little poetry

24 Aug

I’ve been reading poetry lately. Why? Well partly because I think it’s fascinating the words that writers can weave together in an intricate puzzle with so many layers of meaning. And also because I’m trying to enhance my economy of words. Apparently reading poetry improves one’s ability as a writer, so I thought I’d give it a try.

One poem that has become a favourite is by E.E. Cummings. I loved it the moment I read it and have read it countless times since, each time appreciating its simple relevancy. Here it is:

let it go – the

smashed work broken

open vow or

the oath cracked length

wise – let it go it

was sworn to

go

let them go – the

truthful liars and

the false fair friends

and the boths and

neithers – you must let them go they

were born

to go

let all go – the

big small middling

tall bigger really

the biggest and all

things – let all go

dear

so comes love

To me, this poem is symbolic of my relationship with Christ and His promise. With “letting go” being the act of surrendering my burdens, worries, insecurities, fears, and cares to Christ so to be free to fully accept and live in His unfailing, unconditional love. I think the message of this poem is hopeful, if only a sliver of the hope found in Christ. That beyond the hurts and struggles of today, is the promise of redemption and love.